Are you struggling to cope and understand the logic of talking therapies but just don’t know where to start? Or does describing what is going on in your head seem impossible? These blocks to starting counselling are not unusual.
If you are not going to see someone for this reason I suggest you start by telling a therapist whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. In order to help people in this situation I have given some examples of what might be the first words you might use to start your counselling session:
- Everything is scrambled in my head and I can’t make sense of any of it.
- I find it hard to get out of bed every morning.
- I don’t see the point in anything at the moment.
- Everything has lost its colour.
- I feel vulnerable and/or anxious all the time and I don’t know why.
- Recently I am angry all the time and fly off the handle at the slightest provocation and I don’t know why.
- I feel ashamed that I can’t figure this stuff out myself.
A lot of people say that they know someone else who is in a far worse situation than them and they are coping OK. It is often difficult to tell is people are coping even if we know them well. Even if they are if what you are facing is getting in the way of you moving on with your life it is worth addressing.
You don’t have to figure out why you are feeling the way you do-that is something that you and your therapist can do together once you get started.
If you would like to talk to me before committing to a coming to regular sessions I can offer you a twenty minute conversation to give you a sense of what it might be like.
Alternatively, maybe talking to someone online or by phone is the best place to start for you. Here are a couple of services:
The Mix (for under 25 year olds)