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Events in our lives are like a series of bells

‘Nick Cave says he doesn’t have much time for overtly narrative songs these days, that they feel restrictive: “The idea that we live life in a straight line, like a story, seems to me to be increasingly absurd and, more than anything, a kind of intellectual convenience,” he says. “I feel that the events in our lives are like a series of bells being struck and the vibrations spread outwards, affecting everything, our present, and our futures, of course, but our past as well. Everything is changing and vibrating and in flux.’ (Guardian May 5th 2017).

I really like Cave’s idea that events in our lives being like bells vibrating through time. I think that counselling is one way of making sense of bells that are ringing within us and that will not stop until we have paid them attention.


There is a very welcome movement towards broadening awareness of men’s mental health. What I particularly welcome is that this current movement is not coming from the field of psychotherapy.   Men from tough sports like rugby league are openly acknowledging that they have been through difficult times, live with deep anxiety and have questioned their… Continue Reading

How does counselling help?

There are 5 main areas in which counselling can help: You will often find a considerable relief from a space in which you can talk freely. Having a counsellor listen to you closely improves your self-worth. It helps validate your view of the world and who you are. With this comes more understanding and insight… Continue Reading

What would I say in counselling?

Are you struggling to cope and understand the logic of talking therapies but just don’t know where to start?   Or does describing what is going on in your head seem impossible? These blocks to starting counselling are not unusual. If you are not going to see someone for this reason I suggest you start by… Continue Reading


I’ve recently been talking to someone about grief and it took me back to when my mother died many years ago now.  She survived my father by some way and when she died I remember a strong feeling of being exposed.  I had a sense of the stars, space and perhaps infinity.  I think that… Continue Reading

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