How Are You?

I have noticed that there are some differences in issues for men and women. These are by no means exclusive to each gender, but by clicking on a respective gender icon above, some quite distinct concerns are revealed.

Counselling in Twickenham Richmond

How Are You?

How many times a day do we all get asked this question?  Maybe if you are finding it increasingly difficult to answer this question it is a sign that it would be useful to talk to someone.

Counselling for AnxietyCounselling for DepressionCounselling for Bereavement

Counselling for Anxiety

Many of us leading hectic lives and we are used to some level of anxiety. It becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with your life by becoming more severe or frequent.

You will generally notice anxiety in two ways. Firstly, through physical symptoms which can effect any part of your body but most common are that your heart rate and/or breathing is noticeably higher, you may feel shaky and sweaty, headaches and feeling of tension.

Secondly, there are emotional feelings such as a panic, loss of control, or that you are going mad or that you want to do something inappropriate.

You may well be thinking that you should be able to cope and that others seem to be able to tolerate more anxiety you can. Sometimes the people around you have run out of patience and you are not able to talk to them anymore.

Anxiety is a sign that something is not right in your life. Sometimes it is clear what this is and sometimes you may have very little understanding of the source. Counselling can be a place for you to be listened to and have your fears heard and understood by someone who will not judge you for them. I can provide some guidance on how to relieve stress in the short-term and work with you over the longer term to resolve the underlying causes of anxiety.

Counselling for Depression

Depression is more than feeling low. It is a long lasting feeling that prevents you from doing the things that you want to do or to be interested in life.

Some of the signs of possible depression are:

  • Anxiety, restlessness or
  • Feeling sad and or lonely
  • Loss of sleep and or appetite
  • Loss of confidence and self-esteem
  • Feeling totally isolated
  • Thoughts of self-harm and or suicide

How many people have mental health problems in the UK?

The mental health charity Mind’s research suggests that up to 1 in 4 of us will experience some form of problem each year.


Talk to your GP to ensure that you do not have any physical problems that maybe causing your depression and to discuss possible use of antidepressants. GPs can also provide some counselling/psychotherapy through IAPT but the waiting lists are long.



Depression can feel overwhelming and it takes a huge amount of courage to step into the counselling room. Everyone’s depression is different and for this reason my first commitment to people I work with is that I will endeavour to meet you where you are and figure out what it means for you. Secondly, I work supportively and collaboratively with you and go at your pace during this process.
Once we have agreed how to work together I work towards supporting you to find your own meanings and solutions rather than give you direct advice. This approach can provide a new perspective that can prompt positive change.

Counselling for Bereavement

You may be thinking that you should be able to move on with your life by now.  Many people feel this way and there is no set period for grief.

If you Google grief you will probably come across Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief or loss. These are:

  • Denial that this can really have happened and that there a possibility of some other truth.
  • Anger such as ‘why me?’ or ‘how can this have happened?’
  • Bargaining with yourself about changes or commitments you would make to avoid the cause of your grief.
  • Depression that leads to a sense of not being able to carry on.
  • Acceptance

However, I am aware that this can feel like a ‘norm’ to which you should conform. This is not helpful. No two loves or losses are the same and there is no wrong way to do grief.

I aim to provide a safe and compassionate space for you to give full expression to your grief in all its dimensions be it anger, unresolved conflict, deep sadness and loss, guilt or fear for the future.

Professional Counselling and Coaching based in Twickenham Richmond

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